What I wish I had known about SSRIs

I’m currently experiencing SSRI withdrawal – or what the doctors call Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor Discontinuation Syndrome. To say that it is unpleasant would be somewhat of an understatement.

SSRIs are a type of antidepressant. They work by stopping your brain from reabsorbing serotonin, a chemical that some research suggests makes us happy. The theory is: the more serotonin sitting in your brain, the better your mood will be.

I wanted to share some of my experiences of using these types of medications, and of coming off them – because I don’t feel like I was really told much when they were prescribed to me. I’m not trying to be a scaremonger. I’m not encouraging anyone to not starting taking antidepressants – if you need them, and they’re prescribed to you, then I have no judgement on that. I’ve been there. And I’m DEFINITELY NOT telling you to stop taking them – in fact, probably the opposite.

Being on SSRIs

The stigma of having depression and taking antidepressants, plus my own experience growing up with a depressed parent, meant that it took me a long time to accept my diagnosis, and a longer time to try medical treatment.

It took a few months of experimentation until I found one that was right for me – Citalopram, which is pretty commonly prescribed.

Citalopram made a difference, for a while. It didn’t make me happy. I think it’s a myth that taking these sorts of drugs flips some sort of cerebral emotional switch. It’s not a “Happy Pill.” What it did was make life bearable. And because it was bearable, I was able to do the things that did help my depression – going to work, getting counselling, travelling.

Unfortunately, like most things, the efficacy can fade. And then I got to a point where I felt I was stable enough to try and go without.

My first experience with SSRI Discontinuation Syndrome

I knew that it was necessary to taper the dose of the drug, and that the longer period you do this over, the better. It took me six months or so to go from 20mg daily, to nothing. I did it 5mg at a time, and stayed at each new dose for several weeks. I was on the last 5mg for a couple of months.

I had done no research on SSRI Discontinuation Syndrome. I didn’t even know that was a thing. I knew that some of the symptoms I was experiencing – dizziness, nausea, restlessness, unreality – were related to the withdrawal, but I had no idea how much it was actually effecting me.

I kept getting in trouble at work because I was angry all the time, and I couldn’t seem to filter myself. I would just blurt out whatever I was thinking (highly inappropriate when you work in the conservative public sector, or anywhere probably). The smallest thing would send me into rage or tears or both. I stopped going out. I stopped sleeping. I had no idea why it was happening.

Then I got to the last hurdle – going from 5mg to nothing. I took two weeks off work to do it, because I had an inkling it might not be the funnest thing I’d ever done.

It was like how I imagine coming off heroin would be. It was like every scene in every movie ever where they have to tie the withdrawing person to a bed because they’re having nightmares and screaming and sweating and vomiting and feeling like they’re dying. I get very emotional just thinking about it.

I’m not trying to scare anyone who is on these medications and hopes to come off someday. I’m just sharing what my reality was. It’s not the same for everyone, of course. Some people can do it and experience no withdrawals at all. Unfortunately, my body is very sensitive.

After 9 days, I gave up. I went back on the drugs. The symptoms stopped immediately. I felt defeated.

What happened next

That was four years ago. I kept taking Citalopram, even though I wasn’t sure I needed it. I was just too afraid to do anything about it. About six months ago, I asked my doctor about changing. After I got physically sick and went to hospital in March last year, my mental health went downhill. I was able to stay positive for quite a while – anyone who’s been following this blog since then will have seen my experiences. But after I’d been sick for so long with no sign of getting well, my depression started getting the better of me. I knew the Citalopram wasn’t doing a thing for me. So the doctor suggested I try a different SSRI – Sertraline.

Again, I’m guilty of not doing enough research here. If I had, I would have found out that Sertraline – AKA Zoloft – is well known for some pretty horrific side effects. I was unlucky enough to experience all of them. Suicidality, disconnection with reality to the point where you increasingly self-sabotage because you’re just trying to feel something (which manifested in more and more self-harm), migraines, insomnia, nightmares – the list goes on.

The doctors doggedly increased my dose, hoping I’d get to a level where the damned thing would stop being damaging and start being helpful. So I ended up in Respite and realised that things needed to change big time – or I wasn’t going to be around to see them change.

What I’m doing differently this time

I started decreasing my dose immediately after I realised this. I was at 150mg a day (which is about the equivalent of 20mg Citalopram).

Like last time, I tapered down. I hadn’t been on the drugs for as long as I was on Citalopram, so I think that helped. I’m now at the last little bit – going from a little to nothing at all.

Current physical symptoms: Nausea, brain shocks, dizziness, insomnia, shivering and tremors, sweating, restlessness, difficulty focusing my eyes.

Current mental symptoms: Anxiety, confusion, nightmares, extreme irritability, irrational crying.

So here’s my List of Things To Do When Coming Off SSRIs

1. Organise as much support as possible – professional and otherwise

It can be very easy to tell yourself this is no big deal, and you’ll get through it fine. This might be true – but it also might be really dangerous. I didn’t have enough support last time, and when I sought it too late, I unfortunately met with the wrong doctors who denied what I was experiencing.

I have three doctors watching me right now – my GP, my psychiatrist, and my pyschotherapist. I also have an MCT case worker who checks in with me every week and is monitoring my progress. I see the therapist weekly too, and the others monthly as well as them being on call. They know what I’m doing, they have told me I’m safe, and I can ask them questions at any time.

I have also been much more open about what I’m going through with my friends and family. This is very, very hard to do. It is going to be very hard to publish this piece. It’s a very personal thing, and many people won’t understand – probably because doctors perpetuate the myth that this isn’t a hard thing to do.

Let the people who do understand help. Let them be there for you, even if it’s making a meal or sending an encouraging word, or sitting in the garden with a cup of tea. You need them. That’s ok.

2. There are some medications that can help the symptoms

Obviously, you don’t want to switch one addiction for another, but there are things that can ease the process. Fluoxetine, another type of antidepressant, can help some people (I can’t take it unfortunately). Benzodiazepines such as lorazepam, taken in the short term, can help with the anxiety and mood side of things. Codeine can help with the restlessness and general aches and pains. AND my lifesaver – Ondansetron for nausea. I had no idea this existed last time I tried to do this, and I wish I had. It has side effects of course and you can’t take much of it – but it makes my nausea manageable and I wouldn’t cope without that.


Read as much as you can. Don’t scare yourself – other people’s experiences are not yours – but knowing what can happen, and that it is normal, can help. Knowledge is power.

For example, I knew about the physical symptoms, and I thought I could expect a dip in my mood – but I didn’t know that SSRIs actually regulate your emotions for you. It’s a neurological process that your brain now has to re-learn. This can result in your emotions feeling very immediate – therefore my experience of having no filter. Anger, sadness – at the moment, it just happens to me. One second I’m fine, the next I’m mumbling the c-word to myself or sitting on the floor sobbing. I have to allow my brain time to recognise and re-learn how to process these reactions. If I had known this before, it would have been a lot easier to cope with.

4. Be kind to yourself

This is hard. Your mind and your body are totally out of whack. Your brain literally has to rebuild all the paths that were taken care of by the drug. It has to teach itself how to reabsorb serotonin. You have to learn how to cope. Basically, your support beams have just been kicked out of underneath you.

Do the things you know will make you feel good. Take time off work if you can. Sit outdoors. Talk to people who have been through this, or who at the very least will sympathise. Drink lots of sugary tea. Sleep when you can – don’t worry too much about sleep patterns.

5. Take as long as you need

I’ll say it one more time – every body is different. While it may seem like a good idea to just go cold turkey and get it all over with – it’s really, really not advisable. Even coming off as I have – over two months – is a bit fast. I think I’ve managed it is because I wasn’t on this particular drug for that long, because I’m not working fulltime – and because of my support systems.

That’s all I can think of right now, but I might add stuff later, once I’m feeling more well. And if you’ve been through this and have some thoughts or tips, please comment. Your experiences have already helped me.

– SW

16 Replies to “What I wish I had known about SSRIs”

  1. DysthymiaBree

    I had a horror year regarding psychotropic meds in 2013. My ongoing major depressive disorder was exacerbated by some external factors, and my medications bloke decided the cocktail of antidepressants which had kept me going for some years was no longer effective. It turned out none of the x number of other antidepressants he tried were effective, either. Naturally, he kept pushing ECT, which I resisted (we’re entitled to withhold consent). In December, he was going to change my meds again, when I suggested going back to my tried-and-true cocktail – and the nightmare finally ended.
    What I couldn’t believe was that he would do these medication changes over a matter of days. Yes, days. It would take weeks for my poor body and brain to bounce back into some form of equilibrium. I put on ~30kg in 2013 and there were four months when I was in hospital as much as I was at home. I went through a huge range of antidepressants. It was simply horrible.
    I long for the good old days when medication changes took place the way you describe them – over weeks. Perhaps once he started meddling, he was afraid I’d suicide, and he felt he had to keep going (and let me tell you, there were some pretty hairy times).
    Anyway, I fully support what you’ve said about taking things at your own pace. Wish my medications bloke could read it.

    1. writehandedgirl

      I’m horrified that your doctor would do such a thing. We put so much trust in doctors to know what they are doing, and to do what is right for us. As you say, you may have been extremely at risk – but surely doing this with your meds would worsen things! That must have been awful for you, I’m so sorry. Even having taken this long I feel pretty dark wrecked right now.

      1. DysthymiaBree

        Thank you. It feels great to have someone acknowledge my pain. It really was just a nightmare period in my life. Thankfully, the good old redacting memory is forgetting the horror months! And the worst of it is that it was going back on my old meds which finally lifted the fog – which made a mockery of the pain of all those medication changes – and only happened because I suggested it, not my psychiatrist. (Dickhead.) (Sorry, little outburst of anger there.)

        1. writehandedgirl

          Anger is perfectly understandable and welcome here. I love redacting memory, huh. Even yesterday’s pain doesn’t feel as strong as today’s. If I can just get through the next few…

  2. Jemima

    I had similar experiences coming of an SNRI, Venlafaxine, which is notorious for being a very difficult drug to come off. I was in a locked psychiatric ward at the time. The plan was to reduce my dose from 375mg (the maximum dose of this drug) to nothing in 5 days. Yes, 5 days. Instead I just decided to be like “fuck you” and refused to take any medication full stop. So I took myself off Venlafaxine, the maximum dose of Mirtazapine, Aripiprazole, Lithium, Zopiclone and Lorazepam cold turkey. I didn’t sleep at all for almost two weeks and the withdrawal was one of the most difficult things I have ever experienced. My own stubbornness and frustration at being under a Compulsory Inpatient Treatment Order meant I went through hell. After that I continued to refuse to take any drugs and was administered involuntary ECT mid last year when I was just 18. The memory problems that have come about as a result of the ECT are extremely frustrating and they make me feel very helpless and sad. Reading this at least helped me to feel that hopefully other people out there will know what to expect more and maybe this will help them also to negotiate slower tapering off with their doctors.

    1. writehandedgirl

      That sounds like absolute hell. I don’t think I could have got through that. You’re incredibly brave and strong, and thank you for sharing. What I’m experiencing now I’m sure would be a party next to that.

  3. Allan Moyle (@moylea)

    Thank you for your honest and well constructed postings. I have a 18 y.o. daughter who was mid last year put on Effexor to assist her with her GAD. It was not a decision we (her, her mother and I) took lightly. It has however made a significant improvement with few side effects to date, and is allowing her to work through with her therapist her coping strategies etc, and she finished the year well including Uni exams (prev. a very fraught time).
    As someone with virtually no personal experiences with mental health conditions it has been at times a scary, wrenching and difficult journey navigating the processes and people involved often feeling helpless .
    Your postings have become a part of our joint research and is assisting all of us and her in particular to feel more informed and empowered that she is not alone, and increases her understanding of what others are doing/have done as she looks forward to being able to move of medication in the future.
    Again thank you, you are doing good work and we wish you every success in your own endeavors, health wise and in any other you may chose and are obviously so creatively capable in.

  4. Sarah

    It may seem trivial, but a major side effect of SSRIs for me was anorgasmia. This lasted the duration of my taking Citalopram, and for one year after I stopped. It was distressing and really quite physically uncomfortable. I think this is one of those SSRI side effects that is under reported. For me, it made me feel pretty bad about myself.

    1. writehandedgirl

      I don’t think that’s trivial at all. I can see why it’d be very distressing. Thank you for sharing it, hopefully that will help raise awareness that it is something that happens quite a lot with antidepressants, and can last for ages.

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  6. Sara

    The worst of all side effects of SSRI/SNRIs I’ve been experiencing is emotional numbness. I feel totally dead inside and like a zombie. I think I’m extremely sensitive to drugs as my withdrawal symptoms (mostly mental) were very severe and they still seem to refuse to go away after such long time. have been housebound for nearly 3 years now which I couldn’t tolerate anymore, and that made me go back on antidepressants. I’m experiencing an adverse reaction taking them this second time. Where to go from here?? šŸ™

  7. David Pero

    Been there same drug for about two years. I stopped cold turkey at 10mg. OMG it was the worst, THe brain zaps hit me so hard. I was having them several times a minute. . It took a week for them to stop. MY doctor said nothing at all about withdrawl. SSRI and withdrawl it as bad as methadone. I did them at the same time and that was a mistake. I’m glad it’s over and i’m back to normal.

  8. Eric W

    I quit lexapro 3 months ago after only being on it for 3 months. I had horrible headaches lasting for about 2 months and was quite moody. The only thing I notice now is that Iā€™m kind of numb.


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